Hi there! I’m back again for another quick post motivated by the course I’m taking by Ramit Sethi titled Success Triggers.
The main idea of this post is to talk about the concept of failure in life. Based on this week’s Success Triggers course, Ramit Sethi talks about the important of getting outside of your comfort zone and failing at things. Then, learning from these failures, and getting better.
Ramit argues that if you are afraid of failing you will constantly stick to what you know and you will be hesitant to get outside of your comfort zone. The interesting thing here is the psychology of failure. I know for me personally, I always looked at failure as a bad thing growing up. If I made a mistake my parents would get mad at me and I slowly developed a habit of doing everything I could to either avoid making mistakes, or if I did, I would try and hide it from my parents.
Now that I’m older though, I’ve learned that failure is actually a good thing and many times I learn a lot more from failing than I do from things going well.
Ramit has a set of 3 principles to use when facing failure in life
- You can get better at what you are doing
- You can reframe it (i.e. I JUST have to run for 7 min and 30 seconds instead of I have to run for a whole 7 min and 30 seconds…)
- You can pay someone to do it for you (i.e.
With the topic of failure AND Ramit’s 3 principles in mind, this week’s exercise is to reflect on a few questions. The questions are as follows:
- What are 3 things you failed at in the last 6 months? How bad was it really?
- What are you failing at now? And how can you apply Ramit’s 3 principles
Let’s get it!
What are 3 things you failed at in the last 6 months?
Oh man, here we go with that self reflection…let’s see.
- I haven’t been as consistent at the gym as I would have liked to.
- I also let myself slip as far as regular posts on this blog go.
- Lastly, even though I was able to hit my sales goal at work, I was not able to get as many visits from prospective clients as I would have liked.
How bad was it really?
- Even though I haven’t been as consistent at the gym as I would have liked. I have learned a lot about what works for me and what doesn’t, as far as routines go. I’ve also tried out a lot of tools that help me gamify the entire working out process which makes things more fun for me. In all, did I hit my goals? No, but I do feel like I’m now on the track to success. In all, not that big of a deal.
- In a way, this relates to the first point. I came to the realization that when I “win” the morning, it’s much easier for me to win the day. However, if I don’t win the morning, in other words, if I sleep in and I don’t get in to my morning routine – my day tends to not be as productive…With that being said, as mentioned in point 1. Although I didn’t hit my goal of writing a post every week, I did learn a lot about what works for me and what doesn’t. Now I think I’m in a much better position to succeed. In all, again, not a big deal.
- I was fortunate enough to be able to hit my sales goals for the first quarter of this year. However, since that time, even though the number of prospective clients in my “funnel” look good to an outsider, I don’t see a lot of desire by these prospects to potentially become clients in the near future. As I reflect on why this may be, I think a big part of the current results are just a reflection of the market. Not to say there weren’t things I could have done different – but I don’t feel like there was a whole lot that could have been done differently. In the end, not to say this isn’t a big deal, but I just think this was a learning for our team and we will adjust as necessary.
What are you failing at now?
So many options, what to choose….
- Even though I’m trying new ways of reaching prospective clients at work, I’m not seeing the traction I want…
- I’m pretty intent (or at least I like to think I am) at getting my body fat down to around 10%-12% by the end of June – however, I haven’t been as consistent as I would have liked as far as tracking my nutrition goes.
- Ever since I went out to drink with some friends last Friday and let myself sleep in on Saturday and Sunday, I have struggled with waking up early this week…this threw off my workouts AND my entire day as mentioned before.
How can you apply Ramit’s 3 principles to try and remedy these failures?
- Of the three options Ramit provides, I think the best choice at the moment is to get better at what I’m doing. For me this means building a relationship with my prospective clients and trying to really figure out what their problem is so I can tailor the solution I offer them to their needs.
- Again, I’m going to go with Ramit’s first option of getting better at what I’m doing. In this case, I have an old school scale I carry around with me that makes it somewhat of a pain to weigh my food during the day. I’m going to return this scale and buy a digital scale so I can weigh things quickly making the process much more painless.
- The answer here will be a mixture of options 1 and 3.
- I came to the realization that if I let myself slip even a little bit, then I tend to let myself slip a lot! With that in mind, I’m now going to try and hold myself to staying consistent 7 days a week with no days off. This doesn’t mean I’m going full-blast at the gym every day, but I want to hold myself to some form of exercise or stretching everyday with the knowledge that life will force me to have days off here and there regardless.
- On top of this, I also want to try and pay for a personal trainer as someone who can be my accountability partner. I already talked to a trainer at the gym whom I respect and am now saving up the funds to give this a shot.
When reflecting on my life over the past 5-10 years. I have made probably a billion mistakes…for a large part of my life the problem is that I never learned from these failures. However, over the past few years I’ve gotten better at reflecting on life and learning from my failures. I’m nowhere near perfect and I don’t try and act like I’m even close to being perfect – however, I am proud of the strides I have made. I have a long way to go before I’ll be happy with my situation. At the same time though, I’m enjoying the journey and am growing as a human being which gives me fulfillment.
I’d love to hear about how you failed in life and what the impact of those failures really was. Additionally, what are you failing at now – and, how can you apply/how are you applying Ramit’s principles to overcome these failures?
Until next time, all the best!